20 dating dating so soon after a breakup
Personally, the times I’ve dated guys six or so years younger than me, I worried at points that I was checking some “older woman” box for them. While it was an ego boner to be desired by someone with eerily smooth skin who wanted to fuck nine times a day, it also shined a light on my own stupid, petty insecurities.
Like the time I stalked one Younger Guy’s Instagram, obsessing over whether the girls in his photos looked younger than me. But if you can get over your insecurities, I think there’s something to be gained from dating people of different ages—even if the relationships don’t last “forever.” When you’re the younger person in the couple, you get to soak up all your partner’s earned wisdom about life and sex, and it’s nice to feel cared for in that way.
If you’re in your 50s, you remember all your friends dying of AIDS.The Older Man was also my editor, which added a power imbalance to the mix—a dynamic we all know can be equal parts problematic and irresistible.People raise their eyebrows at relationships with a significant age gap: If you’re the older guy, you’re creepy and exploitative; if you’re the older woman, you’re both of those things plus delusional about your shelf life.The Older Man had cool friends who had made movies and weren’t on their parents’ family plan. But while the daddy vibe had longevity in bed, in life it got old pretty quickly.He gave me helpful advice on my career (“Don’t fuck your boss”) and about sex (“Stop screaming”). Whenever the Older Man and I went out, he chose the restaurant.